Since when did it become the norm to put someone down who wants to improve their physique?
I recently overheard someone who was chatting to a colleague about “hopefully someday soon seeing their six pack” and their “friend” who was stood with them sniggered and laughed at them.
Apart from being extremely rude, this person in one action, also highlighted something that I think is wrong with the fitness industry.
This “friend” was a fitness professional. Someone who should be supportive and encouraging of a person verbalising their desire to improve their body composition, and helping them along the way.
Instead they were belittled and laughed at, probably just brushing it off as “banter”.
But when you consider that this fit-pro is also themselves not in outstanding shape and never really has been, it isn’t really a surprise.
I see it all the time.
Trainers being negative of other trainers or friends who are working hard and in awesome shape.
You see, people don’t like it when their friends or colleagues, who they perceive to be on their own level, seek to improve themselves. Because it reminds them that they aren’t doing anything to better themselves, and that in order to remain on par with their perceived equal, they are going to have to do some work.
Bless their little cotton socks. Hard work.
So instead it’s easier to belittle, snigger and laugh in order to put them off wanting to try and achieve a goal, or just bitch about them to their friends and clients.
It’s this obsession with being average, content with fitting in, and not having the drive or passion to seek more, that means somehow, it is celebrated to “just be happy” with your physique, whatever condition it is in.
Don’t get me wrong, you have to be happy and content with your body, but at the same time you are allowed to want to improve it. Why can’t they be mutually exclusive?
Sure, getting leaner requires some discipline and dedication. Just like anything worth having in life. That’s what makes it all the more rewarding, knowing that not many people can do it.
Do you think Cristiano Ronaldo’s family and friends are telling him to “just be happy with what you’ve got”.
He is consistently striving to be better, yet is already arguably the best in the world at what he does.
Most people don’t like challenges.
Most people like being comfortable.
Some people like a challenge
Some people like being outside their comfort zone.
Who you think goes further in all aspects of life? Most people or some people?
I’m happy with my physique, the look and the leanness, yet I have made plans for my off-season so I can improve on some weaker areas.
Because I want to challenge myself. Push myself to improve year on year.
Of course I have days or weeks where I relax and make no progress and relax a bit. Of course I have injuries and days where I’m not as lean as I ever have been. But it’s all part of the bigger plan.
What’s wrong with having a long-term plan aimed at improving your physique?
It’s like someone earning 30k a year, and then never ever wanting to earn more than that? Sure they are happy with 30k and would be comfortable for life, but why not want more at some point in the future? Why not have a 3-year plan to earn 35k a year?
It’s like a football team winning the league one year and then just deciding that they have done that once, what’s the point in trying to win again?
No, they don’t do that, they want to be better, they want to improve.
What’s wrong with having some ambition?
All the people in this world that are doing amazing things, do not sit on their arse doing average working hours, employing average people or content with producing average products.
Have some ambition, have some desire and surround yourself with people who pick you up, who motivate you and drive you forward.
Don’t surround yourself with people who are content with not improving, who are content with letting the world go by, or who aren’t supporting you on your journey.
If you want something, put a plan in action and trust in the process.
But don’t just accept that you shouldn’t want to improve.